I’ve seen it many times and I have been on both sides of this scenario. We start talking about a co-worker with other co-workers, we roll our eyes, sigh, sabotage, exclude, and on and on.
Have you said this statement or heard someone utter these words, “All I want to do is, come to work, do my job and go home”. If this is truly what you want then don’t engage in the drama and negative talk contributing to bad behaviour or toxic environment.
The employer doesn’t like the negativity either, they don’t want to deal with sandbox behaviour, they usually have bigger things on their mind; responsibility, money in money out, product, performance, bottom lines, they don’t really want to manage toxic behaviour. WE ARE SUPPOSE TO BE GROWNUPS.
I’ve heard staff stay, (I’ve done this too) why can’t the boss do something about so n’ so’s bad behaviour. Many bosses/supervisors aren’t trained to manage staff and this attitude and most of them would actually like to tell you to knock it off, do your job and go back to work.
Staff that complain about toxic behaviour participate in it and perpetuate the continuation of the toxic environment? Complaining and bullying is sandbox behaviour which shouldn’t be at the workplace! PERIOD.
If you gripe about how you don’t like this or don’t like that, and you talk about how nice it would be to work in a positive environment - To change the culture of the environment we/I need to change ourselves/myself, which means we need to change our behaviour to avoid the toxic work environment. If all we do is talk about each other and we wish it would be better, then we are part of the problem. If we engage in positive, uplifting behaviour then we become the change we want to see and no longer need to GRIPE ABOUT a toxic environment.
recognize when we engage in this behaviour and STOP
Mindful positive talk that doesn’t include gossiping, bullying, exclusion.
traveling, your pets, kids, the weather, hopes and dreams, recipes, tv shows, exercise, activities, anything that inspires and excites you.
CHANGE STARTS WITH ME
As a life coach I ask the questions, how is this impacting me and how am I contributing to this situation. Can I control it? Can I change it? Am I part of the problem or the solution? Am I able to set healthy boundaries? We all have stresses, a good tool is to put yourself in the other person’s shoes, have compassion for the other person. Have integrity for your self, choose your words wisely, be mindful of taking things personal, even if they feel that way, be genuine with yourself and others. Respect goes both ways and always…if you don’t show respect for others, chances are you don’t have respect for yourself. We are all trying to live this life to the best of our abilities, be kind to each other.
I've included links to the Canadian Centre of Occupational Health & Safety for reference to workplace bullying, safe work place, and hazards. The internet is full of helpful information on this subject.
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